A large part of the episode “Diwali”, in “And Just Like That ,” the HBO Max program that revives “Sex and the City,” reminded of an earlier, more classic series.
Miranda, Cynthia Nixon, has admitted to her friends that she had sex after her long monogamous marriage. She sex with a friend who is notbinary .. Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker), knew this already, as she was not-really asleep following hip surgery. She was also in the next room when the indiscretion took place, and overheard much of it. Cynthia (Kristin) finally has the nerve to tell Charlotte (Kristin Davis), her friend and longtime companion, but Charlotte’s outrage is extreme and outdated, directed at the wrong portion of the experience.
Her mouth opens. After enjoying a lovely sunset dinner, she retorts from the picnic table at which the women are sitting. She gasps, a what?! louder than Carrie could hear. Charlotte is reacting because her friend had sex in public with a queer man — it’s not like the sex took place in Carrie’s kitchen or that Miranda is currently married.
Carrie isn’t helping. She avoids eye contact. She appears disgusted. Miranda asks her, “Are we not fine with it?” Miranda asks her. Carrie replies, “I don’t even know what it’s yet.”
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Miranda’s friends react to her queer experience. This brought back my childhood favorite “Buffy the Vampire Slayer “, when Willow (Alyson Hannigan), comes out to Sarah Michelle Gellar, her roommate , Buffy.
“Oh,” Buffy says. “Oh.” She quickly arose from Willow’s bed, where she was perched. “Tara is a great. . . girl.” Wil keeps calling her name, and she moves awkwardly around their shared space, moving restlessly. “Are you freaked?” Willow questions.
Buffy is able to recover quickly and turns supportive, unlike Willow’s ex-boyfriend, Seth Green, who assaults Willow’s girlfriend Tara (Amber Benson), once he has a sniff of their relationship. “STOP! “STOP! Tara is violently shaken by him. “Tell me.” He then transforms into a vicious werewolf and attempts to kill the woman he has fallen in love with. The show was always heavy-handed in its metaphors.
Here’s the deal. That episode of “Buffy” aired in 2000. “And Just Like That” is airing in 2021. That Miranda’s grown adult friends — in their 50s, but acting, in most regards, like much older people — might have the same disgusted reaction to a friend coming out to them as teenagers would decades ago is an issue.
They’re not disgusted at the right thing. Miranda is cheating with Steve (David Eigenberg), whom she has been in a long-term, apparently infidelity-free marriage and is the father of her child. The fact that it’s marital infidelity merits barely a mention, nor does the fact that Miranda feels happy — alive, as she says — for the first time in a very long time.
It’s her friends who object to the queerness. Charlotte doesn’t seem to be able to comprehend how a woman could have sex without a man. This leads to an insensitive and tasteless exchange about “a finger.” It’s immature. It’s immature.
The object of Miranda’s new affection is Che (Sara Ramirez), Carrie’s podcast boss, a standup comic and as Kevin Fallon writes in The Daily Beast: “one of the new characters added to the series in a woke panic.” The HBO Max series throws issues and characters at the wall in an attempt to fix the lack of diverse characters on “Sex and the City”. One of Charlotte’s tweens is trying a new name or a different way to dress. This contributes to the growing anxiety about nonbinary issues in Charlotte. There are so many plotlines that have been neglected, some even about gender. This reduces what could be considered current stories and makes them less relevant to school.
Che “the worst character” on television. As often happens with bisexual characters, the series stereotypes the queer character as hypersexual (which they have also done with the character of Anthony, who is gay, polyamorous, and promiscuous, getting a handjob from a cater-waiter in a bathroom in one scene at a school function). Charlotte even admitted to fantasizing about Che because they are “so cool” and “so charismatic.” Bisexuals are often portrayed as dangerous, promiscuous and tricksy. “And Just Like That” focuses on the nonbinary character. . . an age-inappropriate fraternity member?
In a weird reversal of how the main trio of woman speak and behave much older than their characters are supposed to be, Che is a person in their 40s who acts like a terribly behaved teen, giving Miranda’s underage son marijuana at a party, shotgunning Miranda from a vape pen, and of course, having casual, tequila-fueled daytime sex with her while Carrie is just a few feet away.
Che is asexually attracted to Miranda. They are not a friend, supporter or trustworthy. After the two have sex — Miranda’s first-ever queer experience